Sexual troubles frequently stem from the mind because sex happens between the ears, not the legs.
Of course, there could be problems that call for professional help from a sexologist or a doctor.
But for now, let’s talk about some typical sexual issues couples face and how to fix them.
Faulty Predictions
Sexual intimacy can be hindered by several false beliefs held by both men and women.
A man’s organ size isn’t as important as his ‘pornographic’ sexual performance expectations or his fantasy body ideal for his partner.
Having an erection “at will” and having an “optimal” erection at all times are two of the many ways in which women impose performance pressure on men to “ensure” their pleasure.
A sex education session with a trained sexuality therapist can aid in maintaining reasonable expectations for both partners.
Problems with Pregnancy Planning
Women who fear pregnancy cannot relax in sex. Particularly if no contraception has been used or contraceptives are feared to fail.
Both men and women must utilize sex contraception.
It’s common for males to claim to operate the withdrawal technique, which is ‘not at all’ successful as a contraceptive measure and, what’s more, frequently leaves the woman disappointed in sex because she may not be able to climax with the rapid withdrawal.
After consulting with sexologists in Bangalore, both partners must use effective, mutually acceptable methods of contraception.
Awful Sexual Experiences
Dyspareunia, or painful sexual activity, may have several underlying causes.
It could be tight pelvic muscles, insufficient vaginal stimulated and lubricated, the hymen partially intact, or a vulva or vaginal injury or infection.
During the first meeting, discomfort and agony are common.
This discomfort/pain can be greatly reduced, if not entirely avoided if intercourse is performed only after sufficient, mutually exciting, and gratifying foreplay.
If the discomfort persists, the source of the pain must be determined before sexual activity can occur.
It may get much worse if a hurting couple persists in trying to have sexual relations.
This could shift the focus from the physical to the mental nature of the issue.
Like an alarm, pain prompts us to look into what’s happening and determine how to fix it.
A sexologist should be consulted to identify and treat any underlying medical issues, and then a sex therapist should be engaged to facilitate sexual satisfaction for both partners.
Ejaculating Too Soon
This is the number one sexual problem that men report.
There is no known medically treatable organic cause. It has its roots in the individual’s psychology and behaviors.
The ‘ squeeze method’ and the stop-start technique’ are two successful behavioral techniques for re-conditioning the ‘trained reflex reaction’ of premature ejaculation.
The same can be said for seeking advice from a professional sexuality counselor.
Efficacy Problems
If a man has trouble getting or keeping an erection, sex will never be penetrative.
The same may have organic (biological), psychogenic, or environmental roots.
Medical or surgical treatment may be recommended if the root causes are physiological.
Naturally, this calls for a thorough psycho-sexual history, physical exam, and other examinations to pinpoint the root reason before any intervention can be considered.
For psychogenic causes, sexual therapy and counseling are best. Sexologists treat difficulties like relationships, trauma, stress, and mood disorders.
Conclusion
A couple’s ability to have mutually comfortable, satisfying, and pleasurable intercourse depends on many factors, including the level of comfort with each other, life circumstances, level of relaxation, health status, sexual arousal, quality and duration of foreplay, vaginal lubrication, hymen status, penetration technique, and position, etc.
To have satisfying sexual intimacy, both parties must be well physically, psychologically, and relationally.